How to learn to communicate with girls: useful tips

The art of communicating with girls is an elusive ability, with the help of words, gestures, a smile and a look, to please the one that I liked. There is even such a modern current, which is called a "pickup". Pickupers are men who can get acquainted with any beauty, have a conversation with her and "get" the trophy of a coveted phone number as a trophy. Is this science so complicated - pickup? Is it so hard to like a girl in a conversation? Let's try to figure it out.

How to chat with a girlfriend

Sometimes it happens that a classmate with whom you are friends insanely likes you, and she treats you only as a friend. How to attract attention in this case?

Start a conversation with her. Make the girl laugh, because if she laughs, she is already half subdued. You can chat about anything, the main thing is that you are interested. Invite a friend to drink coffee, but playfully add “Just don't think it's a date.” Subconsciously, she will begin to perceive the current situation as a date.
Communication should be easy, relaxed. You can inadvertently ask her what type of guys she likes, and then jokingly ask the question “Am I not suitable?”. The girl will perfectly understand all your hints and begin to consider you as a man, not a friend.

How to chat with a stranger girl

Communication in a stranger is a completely different story, in which there are many advantages and disadvantages. On the one hand, you can show yourself on the good side, because a stranger does not know you at all. And on the other - you can fail, even without starting communication. And do not blame yourself or your abilities. Just a girl may not be configured to communicate, or in general, she has a jealous guy.

1. First you need to make eye contact. Look with a confident look at the girl directly in the eye. Let her know that you like her. Cling and cross your eyes a few times.
2. Look at her reaction. If she smiles, shyly hides her eyes or is nervous, triumph - she’s on your hook. You can come up.
3. If the subject of your adoration is sitting at the next table in the cafe, just go up and ask, "Is it free here?" This simple and at the same time effective method asks the girl for approval to communicate with her. If she says yes, it means that a green light has come on for you.
4. You can start communication with the words “Terrible coffee is being prepared here, there is one place where great coffee is served. Do you want me to show you? ” Words should be spoken confidently and simply, as if you really think about the quality of coffee.
5. Do not forget to introduce yourself. Do it simply and at ease. Say, "My name is Sasha, but you?" The girl simply will not disregard such a question.
6. Observe her words, manner of communication and facial expressions. It’s a good sign if she flirts or even flirts with you. It’s bad if a girl crossed her arms over her chest, responds with rude, monosyllabic phrases - you haven’t conquered her yet.
7. Joke. You must get the girl to you. The easiest way to do this is through laughter. However, do not joke about personal and sensitive topics. It’s best to joke about something neutral, for example, “Yesterday I watched a movie about boxers, and in a dream I was almost knocked out.”
8. Give her an unobtrusive compliment. Tell me that she looks great and ask how she does it.
9. Any girl likes to talk about her person. Ask her some question, for example, “Do you like to play sports?”. As the girl talks, show real interest in her words.
10. It is very important to finish the conversation on time.You can not load the girl at the first communication, otherwise you will become too much for her. Half an hour for dating will be enough. You must tell her that you really enjoyed the conversation and hint at continuing the conversation. For example, "On the weekend, my brother and I are going to snowboard, I will write to you if I survive." Such a laid-back joke will make her wait for your message. And further. Do not forget to exchange phones, because if you do not, it will be difficult to find it, especially in a big city.

Appearance while chatting with girls

To “hook” a beautiful, stylish and elegant girl, you need to look appropriately. Even if you're a guy, you can’t walk in dirty, groomed or wrinkled clothes. You should dress discreetly, but with taste. For example, stylish jeans, a fresh T-shirt and a fashionable sweatshirt. Clothing should not be spooled or washed.

If you prefer a classic style, you need to be able to combine it. No sneakers with pants. If you put on a shirt and trousers, then the textbooks need to be transferred to a briefcase, and not worn out of habit in a backpack.

It is very important to monitor hygiene. Well-groomed guys always like girls. Must not be allowed bad breath or overgrown nails. You can’t grow too much - go for a haircut on time. And further. You probably remember how the heroine of one of the Soviet films said that she could not stand dirty shoes in men. I want to note that few people like this - watch the cleanliness of your shoes.

Properly selected perfume can be a desirable fragrance for a girl. It should be light and elusive. Do not pour the whole bottle on yourself - it's vulgar. A few zilch will be enough.

Some more tips on how to chat with girls

1. Be confident and look straight into the eyes. But do not stare too much, it can scare the girl.
2. No mat. It is very important. Perhaps you think it looks cocky, in fact it looks vulgar and uncivilized. This can only hook a girl from a roadside restaurant. A cultured and well-educated girl will hardly like foul language.
3. Do not lie. Now you want to seem brave and daredevil, but you can only remain a braggart. And in general, a lie pops up sooner or later, through acquaintances or friends. If you are focused on a long-term relationship, be extremely sincere and honest.
4. You are a man, therefore complaints or nagging are unacceptable in a conversation. No words of disappointment that you were undeservedly put a deuce for the control or that a friend broke your bike. If you are talking about this, try to translate everything as a joke.
5. Learn to talk about everything interestingly. Do not say that you took your sister to the zoo. Say, “Imagine, I had to go to the zoo with my sister. I haven’t been there for a long time, but it’s really interesting there. She almost fell into a cage with ostriches, I had to pull her by the dress, can you imagine? ”
6. Try to communicate correctly. You do not need to use literary words, but try not to use the words parasites "what, type, this is shorter," etc.
7. Stay up to date with the latest events and news in the world of sports, culture and television. If you have a conversation about something, you will have something to surprise her with.
8. Avoid talking about one of your friends. At least in the first days of communication. No one likes gossip.
9. You can not boast about your achievements. If you are the best football player in a club, you don’t need to report about it. Just say you're into football. And when she finds out about your successes (and she certainly finds out), she will be pleased that you are not only talented, but also modest.
10. In communication with girls, you can not use pre-prepared template text. And especially, in no case do not allow affectionate words (hare, pussy) for a girl on a first date. It looks unnatural and boring.
11. In general, it doesn’t matter what you are talking about.Research scientists say that in most cases a woman does not pay attention to what you say. She looks at how you say it. Therefore, the manner of holding on and self-confidence are much more important than words.

Before you start chatting with a girl, you need to make sure that there is an attraction between you. And if you are drawn to each other, communication will begin by itself. And then you do not have to pick up topics for conversation and think about how you look from the side. After all, natural communication between a man and a woman is inherent in us by nature. Let your interlocutor feel that she is safe, let her be comfortable. And only after that you can start a long interesting conversation.

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