How to learn to live without a husband after a divorce or his death

Life is unpredictable and can change in an instant. You have lived with your spouse for many years, but something went wrong. Cheating, life circumstances, and even death can tear you apart. But do not treat this as the end of your own life. We need to gather our thoughts and step over this situation, survive this stage of life.

How to survive the death of her husband

The death of a loved one is a difficult test that divides life into “before” and “after”. At first, a loving wife simply does not understand and does not accept the fact of the death of a loved one. She habitually prepares his favorite dishes for dinner and listens to the steps at the front door.

Gradually, the woman realizes that the person is no longer there and she needs to move on, for herself, for the sake of the children. To survive this emotional pain, you need to be strong and pull yourself together.

To begin with, try not to make a living icon out of a deceased person. You cannot leave all things in his room in the order in which they were during his lifetime. Hand out the clothes and household items of the deceased person to those in need, and you must leave something for yourself. Gather your will into a fist and don’t cry a lot, because any religion says that you can’t grieve over the dead for a long time - they feel and suffer.

Learn to live a new life, a life without a husband. Feel free to solve all problems and questions, imagine that he is following you and approving your actions. Over time, the pain will dull a little and, perhaps, you can start a new relationship, because your beloved deceased husband would probably want you to be happy.

How to survive a divorce from a husband

Divorce from her husband is also a tragedy, which for most women seems a disaster. Many representatives of the fair sex dissolve in the spouse, subordinate their lives to the routine of the husband and children. Such women often do not work, they do not have stable earnings, and sometimes even a profession. Therefore, divorce for them is a collapse of all life styles. But if this happened, you can’t get wet. You need to pull yourself together and learn how to live without a husband.

1. Give vent to emotions. You can’t be locked in your own grief. Cry as much as you want, but remember that now you must cry for the last time. Tomorrow your new life begins. Buy a punching bag to take out evil on it, get out into the nature and shout so that no one can hear you. Scream as much as you want. Beat the dishes, smash the furniture - emotions need a way out.
2. Change your lifestyle. Change the habits that were inherent in your family. If you liked to watch movies on Saturday night under a cozy blanket, you can’t stay at home and turn on the melodrama - you just drown in your tears. Go to a friend, look for a company that will help you drive away unpleasant thoughts.
3. Let nothing remind you of him. Throw away all his things, gifts and photos. Make home repairs, change the atmosphere, or even place of residence. At least do a rearrangement of furniture!
4. If questions arise in your life that your husband used to solve, try to resolve them yourself. You do not know how to hang a picture, hang a shelf or repair a crane? Not sure where to take the car for maintenance? Do not worry. Indeed, many women live without husbands and cope with everything perfectly. Imagine yourself an iron business woman. The car can be taken to a car service, and for household chores you can call a "husband for an hour" who will solve all your business problems for a fee.
5. Do not forget about yourself. Remember, you are now not alone, but free. On this occasion, you need to change your appearance. Now you have more time for your beloved. Go to the hairdresser, make a fashionable hairstyle and elegant makeup.Refresh your wardrobe and start wearing heels again. Do not hesitate, you will again notice the enthusiastic looks of strangers. This is not only pleasant, but also great raises self-esteem.
6. Remember what you were fond of before marriage. Or maybe your husband was against your hobby? Start painting, dancing, singing or parachuting again. You cannot bury yourself alive. You should feel that now your life is only in your hands. Now you do not have to report to anyone and ask someone for permission. You have complete freedom of choice!
7. Often, the husband’s departure from the family is a loss of material stability. Try to find a job yourself. If you worked in a marriage, think about what could bring you additional income? Maybe you have something to rent? Or have ideas where to invest money? And maybe you have some kind of side job? Use every opportunity, because you must remain financially independent.
8. Set out your pain on paper. Often we cannot share our feelings and worries even with loved ones. But you can write anything on paper. If you are suffering, write them in a diary. Write everything that hurts you. Perhaps one day you will mature before you burn this diary and get rid of the negative in your life with it.
9. Look for positive points in everything. See how the sun shines brightly, how the birds chirp. Think about what caused your divorce? Your husband cheated on you? Then what are you sad about, why do you need such a traitor? Perhaps you yourself left your husband because he was a tyrant? Think about what made you divorce. Remember all the problems of family life and breathe a sigh of relief.

Everyone can lose a loved one. Try to soberly assess the situation and learn from it a lesson. Do not torture yourself with accusations - both parties are to blame for any conflict. Draw conclusions and try not to make such mistakes in later life. Time will dull the pain and then you can meet a worthy man who will become your pillar and stone wall.