How to stop worrying about anything

Stress, everyday problems haunt us daily. A strong person successfully copes with situations that arise in his life, but there is a category of people who are worried for any reason. Emotional and violent reaction to stimuli leads to overstrain of the nervous system, fatigue and inability to adequately act in this situation. Many problems can simply not be noticed or let go, but a competent reaction to stress factors needs to be learned.

What happens to us when we get nervous

• Palpitations.
• Palms sweating.
• The thought process changes - it speeds up or, conversely, slows down.
• Tearfulness appears.
• There is a desire to drink or smoke.
• We respond inappropriately to the situation, enter into conflicts, and become disappointed.

How to stop reacting and worry about the little things

1. Each problem has its own time. We often think of something that has not happened yet, we begin to build in our brain the possible development of events, and in a negative way, which causes a surge of certain emotions in us. The first rule follows from here - we solve problems as they arise and stop planning their development in our imagination.
2. Occupy yourself with something: physical or enhanced mental work that is not related to the problem. Make sure that you are busy with something throughout the day.
3. Learn breathing exercises. Various breathing practices are well developed in the yoga system, where you can also learn meditation techniques that will calm emotions and learn to control yourself. Soothing breathing helps even in extreme situations, when you need to take a break and find the most effective solution.
4. Live for today. Many problems are not worth attention. Nahamili in line? And what do you care about a completely stranger and his mood. With his behavior, he only makes himself worse, but if you answer his words or actions, your mood will go bad. Why do you need this? Just go through or respond completely calmly and without emotion - so you keep your peace of mind and prevent the conflict from developing.
5. Close people often annoy us after a long stay with them. Understand that each person is a person with his own habits and needs. At the beginning of your life together, the person was the same, but you did not pay attention to minor imperfections, so why now you began to do this? Let yourself know that everyone has the right to freedom, character flaws and a certain way of thinking. Do not try to remake someone, it is better to do self-education.
6. Stop feeling guilty about what is happening. Improper upbringing in childhood leads to the fact that an adult already feels constant guilt for your actions. You are not to blame for anything! You do not owe anything to anyone, and people do not owe you. Just live and enjoy. Yes, we are responsible for many actions, but they happened, they just need to be accepted as a fait accompli, and live on.
7. Learn to fight fear. The expectation of failure and danger paralyzes us, prevents us from thinking and acting effectively. Fear is an instinct, but it is needed only in dangerous situations. Are you afraid of flying? But if you count the number of accidents in air transport, it turns out that they are much smaller than in water or land. Afraid of changing your life? So live in obscurity and financial constraints. Are you afraid to love or marry a loved one? Then he will find another partner. Do what you fear, and you will feel free.
8. Do not wind. Our thoughts can bring the experience of the situation to an absurdity.An even greater danger is to worry about what has not happened and not the fact whether it will happen at all. If you so want to scroll in your head the plot of future events, then imagine them in a better light, how you would like to happen. We are able to attract situations and problems to ourselves only by thinking about them, therefore thoughts should be as positive as possible.
9. Stop worrying about what others think. In fact, other people do not care about you. It seems to us that people rejoice with us or worry, but each of us is more concerned about our own problems. Do you care about gossip? Forget about it and do not try to prove something to people, it will only get worse. Pass, smiling, past the gossips, communicate with him smoothly and calmly, they are not worthy of your attention, but your peace of mind is much more important. And do not listen to the gossip that "well-wishers" retell to you, just live as you think is right.
10. Accept the inevitable. Much of what has already happened cannot be changed. You can cry, berate for a while, but you can not delay this process. Allocate yourself an evening, take stock and accept the situation as a given. It happened, and it is impossible to change it.
11. Change what you can change. If you understand that something else can be changed in your direction, stop worrying and outline an action plan. Calculate everything to the smallest detail, turn off emotions, they only interfere, and decide what you will do next. A clear plan will help put your thoughts and actions in order, as well as get what you want.
12. Do not strive for complete perfection. Yes, we must try to do everything as best as possible, but the ideal does not exist, and the pursuit of excellence is dangerous for peace of mind. The ideal figure exists only in glossy magazines, the ideal report is in the thoughts of the authorities. Yes, you must do your job as well as possible, while it feels like a comfortable action, but if you understand that the pursuit of ideal brings you discomfort, it's time to slow down.
13. Allow yourself to make mistakes. There is no person in the world who would never be mistaken. Any mistakes are our experience, a way of mastering the world around us. Each mistake is an opportunity to learn something new about yourself or your work. There is a category of people who believes that they are not mistaken. Such a view of the world is dangerous because it is connected with children's fears of committing the wrong thing. If you don’t see the real results of your actions and understand where you acted incorrectly, then in the future there may come a moment when a major mistake will really be made, which cannot be corrected.

Sometimes the principle of "score on the situation" helps. The most important thing is to accept yourself, to love yourself, little things are not worth our attention, they are part of our life and nothing more. Remember, in many respects physical health depends on emotions and psychological mood, so learn calm and find pleasant things in the details.