How to part with a guy: 4 ways

Love inspires, but only if it is fed regularly. Relationships require constant work, otherwise the relationship is doomed to failure. When a girl ceases to feel sympathy for a guy, absolutely everything starts to annoy her. Unprecedented shortcomings erupt outside, as a result of which the thought of parting visits more and more often. The lady daily thinks about how to leave the guy. Psychologists advise to adhere to important aspects. We will analyze all the methods in order.

What could be the breakup

1. Parting in the stage of uncertainty. Partners cannot part, although on a subconscious level they desire it. Their mutual sympathy faded, lack of tenderness, affection crumbles. The guy and the girl are not doing anything to strengthen communication, but still hold on to each other. This feature is achieved for the reason that young people have invented "ideal relationships" for themselves. The connection is reinforced by illusions, but, in fact, the girl and the guy no longer need each other. For the most part, in such marriages, people do not remain faithful, starting a person on the side.
2. Positive breakup. Love passes, this fact has been proven repeatedly. When a man and a woman can admit it, then a gap occurs. Both partners realize the senselessness of their relationship or marriage, as a result of which they make a wise decision - to leave. In this case, the gap occurs on a positive note. As a rule, in the future a failed pair maintains contact, helps each other if necessary. This is the best case scenario. With a positive separation, people are free from emotional boundaries, they do not hold on to illusions and take a sober look at things.
3. Painful breakup. This type of gap most often occurs not by mutual agreement, but by the decision of one of the partners. Parting is with violations of the psycho-emotional background, one side is not ready to let go of your soulmate. Such behavior is characterized by possessive instincts when the non-letting one does not want to grant freedom. As a rule, this kind of breakup is difficult to survive, often the help of a psychologist is required. If you leave the guy, he must overcome psychosomatic problems, and then return to a full existence.

How to part with a guy: effective ways

Depending on the nature of the relationship, psychologists distinguish 4 effective methods of breaking. We will consider each of them in order, we will give practical recommendations.

Method number 1. Electronic break

1. In the age of technological progress, parting with the help of SMS or social networks is gaining special popularity. No matter how ridiculous the idea looks, it is effective. The method is suitable for girls who did not meet with a young man for long. If after a while you realize that the young man is not suitable, write him a message.
2. Use the social network "VKontakte" or "Classmates", phone communication is also suitable. Compose a large text, correctly and clearly state your own thoughts. Highlight the main reason why you want to leave.
3. It is important to understand that after a sentimental message you cannot turn back the clock. Therefore, decide for yourself whether you really want to break the connection. If so, proceed with the manipulations.
4. Since the young man is far away, he will not be able to keep his passion with kisses or hugs. We can say that the gap through technology will smooth the corners. You will not see emotions, as a result of which regret will not prevail.
5. Try to be specific. Consider in advance the answers that a guy may have while reading. Explain yourself in one message, thereby eliminating unpleasant moments associated with the lengthy correspondence of “what and why?”.
6. Do not limit yourself to two sentences. The guy has the right to know why the passion abandoned him. Make it clear that you do not blame him for all mortal sins. Avoid veiled phrases, be firm and confident. The recommendation is relevant for girls who cannot look into the eyes of a young man and make a serious speech (it is easier to break off relationships electronically).

Method number 2. Tête-à-tête parting

1. The gap through an eye-to-eye dialogue is rightfully considered one of the most popular. Take a closer look at this method if you have met a guy long enough. People who lived together, it is important to understand that the break in SMS is not suitable here.
2. The technique is not fraught with special tricks. Contact the guy by phone, say that you have a serious conversation. Perform manipulations 1 or 2 days before the expected break. Such a move will give the young man extra time to mentally prepare.
3. When the day “X” comes, say that you want to leave. Make it clear that you are cold to your soul mate, so there is no point torturing each other. Do not go on reproaches, do not answer insults (if they are), do not behave arrogantly.
4. Do not focus on the negative qualities of the character of a young man, his temperament can no longer be corrected. Otherwise, you run the risk of running into the phrases “I will correct!”, “Let's start all over again!” and so on.
5. Do not utter the popular dictum “Can we remain friends?”. The guy will perceive the situation differently they say, "I do not fit her as a life partner, but I can be a friend." For a man, such a position is humiliating.
6. Do not make false promises. If you have already started dating another young man, in no case do not dedicate the “injured party” to this. Be persistent and polite, do not show feelings of regret, sadness or attraction.
7. No need to hug the guy as a sign of farewell, so as not to aggravate the situation. When you are convinced that he will not start drinking alcohol or driving a car at a frantic speed, end the conversation. Agree in advance that after the break you will not keep in touch.

Method number 3. Parting with the help of a friend

1. If you want to part with a guy without offending him, use the matchmaking method. Find an attractive acquaintance who agrees to overshadow your boyfriend. Make a plan, start a new page on social networks, start correspondence.
2. The main task of the girlfriend is to bring the guy to a frank dialogue, after which make an appointment and kiss. Remember, everything should be natural. In the end, a friend and a young man can form a couple (for you, this will be the best option).
3. Choose a pretty candidate that your guy will like by type. It is good if she has a sense of humor, self-irony, charm and a confidential (sweet) appearance. At this time, become a terrible companion: throw tantrums, swear at the little things, constantly be dissatisfied.
4. Such a contrast will create excellent soil for parting, the guy himself will take his legs. The young man with all the fibers of his soul is sure that ahead of him is the future with your girlfriend. In this way, you will part without resentment, because the young man will make a choice.
5. What will happen next is not so important. A friend may step back or decide to continue the relationship. Your mission is complete. Even if in the end they part, the male ego will be hurt slightly, because the guy is familiar with the new passion for only a couple of weeks.

Method number 4. Positive gap

1. Parting in this way is not suitable for everyone, but it is extremely effective.Girls who have a short-term romance often resort to tricks of this kind. Meet the young man, express sincere regret and admit that you were drawn to girls.
2. Be sure to mention that you tried to be with a man, but the essence breaks out. You will not be able to meet with him and fight the attraction to the female sex. Do not try to justify a lie by actions, otherwise the situation will get out of control.
3. If the guy is smart enough, he will try to trick you into "weakly". Don't fall for the tricks of kissing a girl or having a threesome. Despite the absurdity, the technique is effective. Most importantly, do not laugh during the conversation. You must believe what you are saying.
4. If your couple lives in a small town, you should not use the method. Most often, in small settlements, people know a lot about each other, your trick will quickly reveal. With this method, a short-term resort romance or an insignificant relationship, which is tied up “from nothing to do,” ends well.

Practical tips

1. Take the time to start a relationship with another young man. If this still happened, do not put the new connection on public display. Remember, happiness loves silence. You can enjoy each other without a joint photo on the avatar on VKontakte.
2. If the break-up is one-on-one, choose the right place for a serious conversation. It should not be familiar to both of you, stick to neutral territory. One option is a park or restaurant that you have not been to before.
3. Try to be reasonable, but not insensitive. No need to talk about a break in moments of psycho-emotional failure in a guy. Wait until he gets enough sleep and copes with other (serious) problems.
4. Scroll through your future conversation, think through the answers to possible questions in advance. Do not speak in solid monotonous text, but do not drag out the conversation for several hours. Focus on the fact that you have cooled down, feelings can not be returned.
5. Do not try to reassure the young man with a possible reunion, save him from a sense of uncertainty. Give friendly parting words that state that it is time for him to move on.
6. Avoid a sharp influx of emotions, in no case do not start to cry. When talking with a nervous man, do not reciprocate with insults, do not say nonsense, it is better to turn around silently and leave.
7. If you decide not to part because of treason, keep respect for your companion. Do not tell your friends about his secrets, do not expose the young man in a bad light. Talk privately, not in the company of friends.
8. Do not pass the message to leave through your friends, be courageous and tell about everything yourself. Otherwise, your actions will be regarded as cowardice and disrespect.
9. Do not keep in touch with the guy after the break. Delete his number, send to the far box all gifts and joint photos. Avoid common companies so that the gap becomes less painful for the young man.

If you have clearly decided that you want to leave, do not delay the action for a long time. Thus, you will make suffer not only yourself, but also the young man. The young man will see that the relationship does not bring joy, therefore he will constantly feel humiliated.

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